Fighting Back Against Coercion

Shifting the ways in which we are flexible and adaptable

One of the most beneficial aspects of working through my shadows has been the clarity in which I have observed my weaknesses, sensitivities, points of instability, and petty limitations.

When you choose to look deeply at yourself in these ways, you receive the opportunity to change yourself in profound ways.

When I delved into these parts of myself I became so aware of how much I had compromised myself and allowed others to manipulate me in the past.

I used to be easily coerced in the past because my boundaries were non-existent and my people-pleasing tendencies ruled my thoughts and actions.

I believed if I didn’t appease others, that terrible things would happen to me.

I know now it isn’t my job to please anyone, hell, it isn’t my business to even be involved in what I think or believe others do or don’t want.

Open communication is what I am working on more now. Asking for what I want/need, holding space for others to communicate what they want/need.

Now I can use my wits and wisdom to navigate challenges rather than getting swept up in the games of others. Rather than letting fear dictate my reactions. Now I responded mindfully. I give myself space and time, and am kind to myself if something doesn’t work out, or if someone is rude or disrespectful to me.

My feeling still get hurt, but my whole world doesn't crumble. I don’t feel afraid, like I must walk on eggshells all the time.

Other people's disappointments are no longer my disappointments. At least I am trying to be more mindful about the separation here, though being extremely empathetic and sensitive still makes this difficult.

I am still flexible and adaptable, but in ways that feel okay to me. If something isn’t right to me now, I’ll communicate it, or seek to reach a solution rather than trying to ignore it.

I’ve experienced the darker side of what happens when I ignore myself- and I won’t do it again in the extreme ways…

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